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Why Solo Travelling Is The Best Self-Development Tool

With the internet and our daily life, being swarmed by material on self-development, teaching us different ways to become a more superior self, one thing is clear — we all want a better version of ourselves and become more efficient than we are today. If we run fast, we want to run faster. If we speak one language, we want to speak many. If we already have an impressive personality, we still want to go one step further, defying all laws of our existence and become undeniably impressive… and the quest never ends.

The problem is, however, we just know how, or we don’t have the time to work for it. Our little lives, bounded by schedules and responsibilities offer no scope for creativity, and with that, for any self-development. We are still repeating the same thing that we were, three years ago. One day turns into the next and all those things that we desired to do, combined with all the personality traits we wanted to gain, keep piling up until we eventually lose grip on life.

So what to do? My advice…

Try Solo Travelling

Over the years, I’ve thought about losing grip on my life too. When I was working in England (after completing my post-graduation) I was being paid more than I ever could in India, particularly during the early years of my career. Yet I wasn’t content. So after a year and a half of a constant mind-fuck, I moved back to India, hoping for a positive shift in life. I thought by staying closer to the people I knew, the world would change. But nothing happened. I was still constantly regretting about where my monotonous life was heading.

Then one day, I quit the job to travel, sold all my belongings and decided to follow the road for as long as my heart desired — and I couldn’t go back. Why? Because when I was travelling A Constant Change Was Guaranteed. I was busy exploring new places and meeting new people, and between all that, gaining new experiences every day.

Solo Travelling Brings About A Slow But A Constant Change

After two years of uninterrupted solo travelling, when I meet friends whom I have not seen in years, they inquire about the ‘remarkable change’ in me. And all I’ve to say to them is: while there were moments that were more precious and comparatively more educating, moments that owe to the highs and lows, there is no single incident that I can point to and say, “that moment turned me from a hopeless introvert to a fearless nomad”.

My transformation from someone who always preferred the security of four-walls and staying close to his family and friends to someone who now carelessly wanders across cities finds his own way, and turn strangers into friends was a slow and a steady process. It happened constantly over time.

Solo travelling forced me out of my routine. Helped me become more independent, take risks, and accept the change. The whole idea of versatility is what’s adding to the new me.

Solo Travelling: A Self-Development Tool

What do you do when you end up in a new country, with no one coming to receive you at the airport. And to top it off, you don’t speak the local language either. You think hard, try a dozen sign-languages and find a way around. And in the process, develop a more superior self than you were, before landing in the country.

I remember when I planned my first ever cross-continent trip to South East Asia I was scared more than ever. I didn’t speak Thai or Cambodian, and to make it tougher, I had no one receiving me at the Bangkok airport. Now, under a tight and a limited budget, I had to navigate my way, ask people the most cost-efficient way to get to the city centre, try different sign languages, and make sure no one rips me off because I behaved like a hopeless tourist. Later, after reaching the hostel, new challenges appeared — of making friends in the dormitory and getting around and sightseeing the city.

By the time I left Bangkok, after a few weeks of hopeless wandering, I improved communicating in situations where I didn’t know the local language, learned how to turn strangers into friends, fill my stomach when I didn’t understand the food, and solve a slew of problems that came up during my stay.

In just one trip, I got better at communication, problem-solving, patience, speaking sign languages, and being more confident about situations I wasn’t ready for. Why? Because I had no option. It was all needed for the survival.

Take A Break. Go. Explore!

I always suggest people take a break from their tiresome lives and travel. Take a year off, or a few months, a sabbatical — whatever you can afford — and explore the world on your own.

I am not saying that travelling is some kind of panacea, and there is definitely no place far enough to escape your problems, but what travelling does to you is it gives you that space to be someone else and improve your life. As you travel and face new challenges, you adopt a new personality and start thinking “What the new me would do here.” You end up putting yourself in different situations, and in the process, improve yourself without even noticing.

So as the year of 2018 slowly passes by, let’s forget all those new year resolutions that we have already lost our bet with. Let’s just stick to one thing — and I assure that the rest will follow — of travelling alone a little more.

Because as far as I’ve learned, solo travelling is the ultimate tool of becoming a better, a more confident you!

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After my couple of years of corporate career, I left that lifestyle behind, and with it, everything that didn't fit in a backpack. I've learned that this world is too big (and too interesting!) to spend your life working at one place, and that's what inspires me to remain footloose and fancy-free for the rest of my life!

15 Comments

  1. Saara says

    A very simple and inspiring article. I recently made my first solo trip, and yeah I can relate to what u have shared. Along with all those skills that u have mentioned, I also learnt decision making at crucial times. I believe that every small experience takes the person one step closer towards self actualisation.

  2. Pramila says

    I am a physically challenged person so I am limited to some extent Is there any way in your style for people like me.

  3. Heena says

    V happy to kno that person can travel alone tooo, v useful information for me plz keep sharing v impress withis new concept

  4. Anonymous says

    I just imagined your situation of the solo traveling on different places it was a big challenges for you. Anyway you made a good decision for traveling on alone for improving your confident and abilities.

  5. AASHISH ARVIND says

    I have been thoroughly impressed by this unique way of understanding one’s own self better. I fully agree that eventually one finds himself being transformed and the transformation continues….
    Hats off to the Solo Traveller!

  6. Piyush Pareek says

    It is very fascinating and inspiring to not only explore the world but inner us too.

  7. paul calwin says

    Keep sharing such inspiring content Dev. Makes me want to go back to my travelling days.
    And you are a talented writer.

  8. supriya says

    nice article….I have travelled a lot in china….n believe me its 10 times difficult n challenging than travelling any other countries but worthy.
    Will suggest u to take china trip…specially hidden villages of china….u can feel completely hopeless n amazing at the same time.

    • Hi Supriya, many thanks fir your comment. Your name suggests you’re from India. Is it not tough for Indians to get visa for China?

      Never gave visiting China much of a thought but would love to do it. Will connect with you via email for some details. Thanks again.

  9. It was very useful for me. Keep sharing such ideas in the future as well. This was actually what I was looking for, and I am glad to came here! Thanks for sharing the such information with us.

  10. Great post Dev. Completely agree with you. Even though am not a full time traveler, few experiences of solo travel has taught me lot. I can relate myself to what you said.

  11. Varad Wazalwar says

    What was your parents opinion on ur decision of quitting job & exploring the world.

    • They were fine with it from the beginning. As long as I am happy (and doing good in life) they’re happy too.
      And with blogging picking up, and with me making money from travelling now, things are even better 😉

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