When you’ve been travelling for long enough, you start calculating the benefits. You start evaluating your biggest solo travelling lessons, if you’re a solo traveller, for example. You wonder whether your solo travels have made you a better and stronger person and whether all these journeys, that you’ve so far taken, have given you a deeper understanding of yourself – from within, and without. You wonder if you want to keep continue travelling, or is it about time to find some stillness in life and look for a purpose in another direction?
I’ve been wondering the same thing, repeatedly asking myself the same question – what is it that I’ve gained through all these years of solo travelling. What are my biggest solo travelling lessons? Has it made me a better person and perhaps a bit stronger too from within? Do I want to keep continue doing it? And the answer that came to me was a sure “Yes!”
Biggest Solo Travelling Lessons
Solo Travelling Has Made Me A Decision Maker
Before I started travelling solo I was a team player and not a leader. My decisions would wait for others. But as I started travelling solo, having no one but myself to rely on, I learned the art of decision-making.
Though solitude and taking all the decisions by myself, with no one to get assurance from, was struggling at times — particularly during the initial few journeys — but as I gained experience, I found it easier. It has now become a lot easier for me to make decisions in life.
Any time spent with your inner self eventually makes you reflect on your life. It helps you become a better decision-maker — and this remains one of my biggest solo travelling lessons.
I’ve Learned The Art Of Small Talk
Ask anyone who knew me before I started travelling, they will tell you how much I hated small talk. Growing up in New Delhi I became like the majority of people in a big city — cold and busy. I would stick to the idea of ‘Few Friends, Good Friends’ forgetting how amazing it feels in engaging in a conversation with a stranger waiting for a bus alongside you, or with someone in the long queue for the ATM. I’d almost forgotten how disconnected our lives have actually become, despite living in the world of ever-connected devices.
While solo travelling small talks remain the only way of making friends, and this has made me learn it and become a friendlier person. While I am still shy at times, I no longer find myself wondering why this stranger asked me ‘how I was doing today, as if they really care’. Instead, I entertain their questions and shoot a smile.
Mishaps Are Just A Part Of The Journey
I remember the first time I was planning a solo journey, after quitting the job to travel, I planned everything. I knew where I was going, for how long, and how I would get there. I was scared of uncertain mishaps.
But over the years, the way how I plan my travels has totally changed. Now I’m a last-minute planner and rarely travel with a set itinerary. When plans change or things go wrong, I just roll with it. Life on the road works out in the end and mishaps are just a part of the journey.
For example, while backpacking in Europe earlier this year, I had my camera stolen in Bratislava, Slovakia — with almost half of my press trip still left unattended. Now I could remorse over what happened and spoil the rest of my trip or accept it all courageously. And accepting it all courageously, I reported the incident to the police and had the story (of what happened) published in a couple of local Slovakian newspapers, in addition to writing about it on my blog. In the end, hundreds of Slovaks came forward conveying their deepest condolences and asking if they can help me in any way. A kind guy from Bratislava moreover donated a camera that he didn’t need. Not only did I gain a lifelong lesson from what happened, but I also explored the bright side of Slovakia, and its people, who come out as a force, not wanting to have crime walking freely on their streets.
Facing Your Fears Isn’t As Scary As It Seems
When you’ve got to figure everything out yourself you may feel anxious. Maybe a bit overwhelmed too in the beginning. You may feel nervous talking to strangers or feel awkward being in a restaurant or a museum all alone. But over time, you learn to win over your fears and anxieties — no matter how big or small. Things quickly become less frightening once you step up to face them.
When I started travelling solo, my biggest fear — being an introvert, and having an irrationally anxious mind about everything — was of being alone in public spaces. I would feel so uncomfortable every time someone shared a look while laughing with their friends as I sat alone with an expressionless face. But slowly I found my comfort zone and yet stayed totally absorbed in whatever I am doing. From reading a book on a train to walking in an open market as I carelessly gulp an ice cream, I’m now more self-contained. Being self-contained remains one of the biggest achievements and solo travelling lessons.
Gratitude & Compassion Are Important
Travelling solo instils the character traits of empathy and gratitude more creatively than you can imagine. When you travel to places and travel alone, you get an eye for understanding world realities from someone else’s perspective. A middle-aged mother in Cambodia working hard to send her kids to schooling. Farmers invest long, arduous hours in growing the rice and coffee that fill our tables in the cities. All these realities may otherwise seem customary and normal in day-to-day life, but while travelling with a broader mind, you start respecting what you have and develop gratitude towards others.
For example, while travelling in South India and the Namdroling Monastery in Bylakuppe, I found how despite being kicked out and fleeing from their own hoses, Tibetan Buddhist immigrants — that are now living in India — are still much happier than many of us living in big cities, chasing hedonism, are.
Practising gratitude and compassion is not exclusive to travel, but long-term travel cultivates the two traits in us much more easily and instils the practice deep into our life.
Are you a solo traveller too? What have been your biggest solo travelling lessons?
Great Article! I could relate 🙂
The best time in my life for growth was in my 50’s lost, over-stay visa requirements and totally broke in Europe. I wish I’d have been able to do it 30 years sooner. So much growth.
What’s the worst that can happen? You find out how strong and resourceful you are. You fall in love with yourself, the planet and everyone you meet. What amazing people there are on our planet. I just want to get to know every one of them.
so true Ama. love the way you concluded your message “just want to get to know every one of them”. Me too!
Well said Dev, really inspiring article. Keep exploring.